I know you feel that you "love him" or that "he loves you" but condoning his infidelity should never be a description of 'love.' When someone truly loves you, they have eyes for ONLY YOU. No one else. We live in a generation where love is no longer defined by genuine feelings but by lust and selfishness. Too many people are getting together at the expense of just not being alone, while knowing deep down in their hearts that they don't care for that person. If they're not "with them" just to brag about having someone, they're "with them" for the sex, but to not make it look so terrible refer to the person as boyfriend or girlfriend just so it will be approved in the eyes of others. Tisk, tisk, tisk....
My personal take, is that a relationship should ALWAYS consist of Honesty, Loyalty, Faithfulness, Trust & Good Communication. Without those things, a relationship is headed for a very early destruction. What drives people to cheat on their supposed significant other? Of course you hear the typical excuses of "She just wasn't giving me what I need," or "He makes room for his buddies, but not enough room for me." Those responses are not valid and that's exactly where the selfishness comes into play. It's not that she isn't giving him what he needs or he has more room for his friends than he does for you, it's the fact that you are out in the world looking at someone else with lustful eyes. That whole "what they don't know won't hurt 'em" reference is by far the most played out, ignorant put-on that I've come to hear.
The people who cheat and then try to justify it by putting the blame on the other person, are for one guilty and for two, were never actually committed in the first place. But instead of them having the decency to end the relationship, they decided to drag it on - Letting the other person began to grow true feelings for them, while they're out having relations with someone else. They want their cake, so they can eat it too to be frank.
As far as if you should forgive the person of their infidelity, or just move on to the next is completely up to you. If you feel that the two of you can work it out and continue to maintain a strong relationship - then good for you. But you should give an ultimatum. If they really want a relationship with you and they apologize for the mistake they made, it has to be a genuine well-kept promise that they'll never go back to those ways again. You have to hold them by that word. Like the saying "If a dog bites you once, shame on them - But if it bites you twice, shame on YOU." A heart and all of it's emotions are very sensitive areas and you don't want to put yourself back in a situation with someone who is only going to continuing parading around like a single man or single woman. That's when you need to realize you're better than that and yeah it might hurt a little bit to call things quits; but in the end you will leave with your dignity and respect - Knowing that you left a situation before you got deeply hurt by their ways. Makes sense, right?
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